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While I did feel woefully underprepared at my first official group sex event, that's not because sex parties are mysterious and ineffable. They can indeed be described, and they should be for newbies looking to get into the scene. The thing is, each sex party is drastically different, and therein lies the problem.
I've been to parties where before getting down to business, all the guests sit in a circle, say their names, sexual orientations, pronouns, and what they're hoping to do sexually that evening, even specifying with whom. These parties are typically for people of all genders, and there's an emphasis on consent and creating a warm, welcoming space. They have moderators you can talk to if you feel unsafe or if someone is harassing you. If someone is being a creep, they get kicked out. Then I've been to sex parties where asking to touch is actually frowned upon, since it "takes people out of the moment.
I even went to a party at a club in Amsterdam where all the bottoms receptive anal sex partners agreed to bend over and be blindfolded. The whole "schtick" of the event was that these men could not see who they were having sex with. Depending on your sexual interests, this either sounds incredibly hot or downright terrifying. Obviously, the two sex parties I described above are very different. Being bi, I like to attend numerous sex events that fall on both ends of the spectrum and everywhere in between.
I like the chill, let's get to know everyone first type of sex party, but I also like that bend me over the desk, I don't know who you are, please God take me, Daddy type of sex party. Recognizing the diversity of the sex party options out there, here's what you should know before attending a sex party, according to a guy who's both hosted and attended more than parties.
It might help you ease into things by attending a more social party, so you can talk to folks and get to know them before undressing. Many sex clubs have events such as performances or sexy games before all the actual sex starts. If this is an official play party, there will be clear rules about what you should wear, how you should behave, how to specifically ask for enthusiastic consent, and what happens if you violate those rules. Spoiler : You'll be kicked out and never be allowed to return, so don't be a jackass and respect people's boundaries.
Familiarize yourself with the rules before attending, so nothing catches you off-guard. Most sex clubs ban photography altogether. If you meet someone and for whatever reason, just need to take a photo with them, go to the bathroom and take a selfie, just the two of you. A of mixed-gender play parties won't let single men attend by themselves. You need to have a sexual partner with you. Even if they don't mandate having someone, I highly recommend you Sex fun and partying with a partner. That person can be someone you're sleeping with or simply a friend.
It can feel a bit awkward walking around by yourself at these parties, and some Sex fun and partying may unwittingly judge you—assuming you're a creep—if you're out on the prowl by yourself. Also, sex is not guaranteed at these parties at all.
By going with someone you're sexual with, there's a lot better chance you'll get laid, both by your partner but also by others. Most folks at these parties are coupled up and are looking for another pair to swing with. They're not often looking for the rogue stallion. If you want to go to a party and are open to any and everything on your first night there, good for you. You can hold one another able. I once attended a sex party with a friend of mine who drinks alcohol when she feels uncomfortable in social situations.
She made me promise to stop her if she was drinking. She thanked me. Are you two allowed to have sex with other people, or only as a unit? Or would you rather not have sex at all, and just take in the scene? If, by chance, an opportunity does come up and you both feel comfortable, you can re-negotiate with your partner at the party.
Would you want to? But if your partner is game, you can switch it up. The guy who goes to a sex party in a frumpy t-shirt and jeans. Whether it's a harness, a collar, or a goddamn jockstrap, wear something that makes you feel empowered and sexy. Additionally, most sex parties have a dress code.
If they do, follow it. You don't need any corny pickup lines at sex parties. I mean, you really don't ever need pickup lines, but I'll save that for another piece. You can go up to someone you're attracted to, introduce yourself with a smile, and ask how their night is going. It will become very clear Sex fun and partying they're interested in talking to you or not. If they reply, "My night's going better now," or, "I was bored until you came along," it's a good they want to bang. If they respond with, "It's going fine," and are looking around the room for someone else, then simply reply, "Same here.
Great to meet you," and walk the hell away. Consent is required for all sexual activity—and yes, that includes at a party where the express purpose is having sex. Can I? And don't be a weird lurker. I had a guy get really close to me while I was having sex one time.
He stood a foot away from me, making aggressive eye contact. I would call this a violation of personal space. Like dude, back off.
Have I spoken to them? Watch from afar—like, at least 6 feet away. There may be folks who want to have sex with you, and you might not be interested. Totally fine! They will help you. You need to have your wits and be able to consent. You also need to be mindful of other people consenting or notwhich is challenging to do when drunk.
I've noticed more and more that play parties hire hosts, rope bondage experts, dominatrices, and other types of performers to do something sexual for the attendees. Watch someone get tied up and flogged. Try sexual electrostimulation if they have it.
Or at least watch other couples getting it on. Nine times out of 10 there will be condoms and lube at the party. However, they're often those free condoms that clinics give out that are thicker than plastic bags. Bring your Sex fun and partying high-quality, thinner condoms. It's also wise to bring your favorite type of lube as well. You'll thank me later. Sex is fun. Being at a sex party is fun. Sometimes hilarious things happen during sex. Laughing is the only appropriate response when this is the case!
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